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When I’m booked to perform, I don’t always know exactly what kind of audience or backstage space to expect. In early 2011, I was ecstatic to headline my first international show in London, called Electric Burlesque. As glamorous as it sounds, in reality my troupe sisters and I were packed in a teeny tiny dressing room on the third floor of a restaurant. Between acts we would dash up and down multiple flights of stairs. We were nearly on top of each other. It was impossible to move in any direction with bumping into another person or their things. Within the first five minutes we became a sorry symphony. Every few seconds one of us would bump someone and say, "sorry."
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It was maddening, so we made a deal with each other. Rather than spend the entire time apologizing to each other, no one would apologize. Instead, if someone felt offended and wanted an apology from another person, they would ask for it.
We’ve all heard women do it--the sorry symphony. A shampoo brand created this commercial demonstrating the point and asking, “Why are women always apologizing?” I have news for you: your purpose in life is not to apologize. If you want to be an influential leader, you’re going to bump into people from time to time. In order to accomplish your mission, you’ll need to make difficult decisions, and you’ll inevitably invite disagreement from others. |
Yep, that's me. Crowched on the floor of our dressing room, sipping some preshow java, with nowhere else to sit!
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If you make a mistake, or hurt another person, it’s natural to offer a sincere apology. However, your presence, your opinions, your desires, your emotions, your space, your time, or your needs do not require an apology.
Today, I want you to stop telling the story that you are sorry. Erin Morgenstern describes the impact of stories by saying, “You may tell a tale that takes up residence in someone's soul, becomes their blood and self and purpose. That tale will move them and drive them and who knows that they might do because of it, because of your words. That is your role, your gift.”
(Also, your body is not an apology.)
Today, I want you to stop telling the story that you are sorry. Erin Morgenstern describes the impact of stories by saying, “You may tell a tale that takes up residence in someone's soul, becomes their blood and self and purpose. That tale will move them and drive them and who knows that they might do because of it, because of your words. That is your role, your gift.”
(Also, your body is not an apology.)
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Throughout the day, turn your attention to notice how often you and others around you preface or end a conversation with, “sorry”. Watch out for these commonly used phrases:
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Cut sorry out of your conversations today. In your journal, make a list of all the things you are NOT sorry for.
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The sacred and the profane exist as two sides of the same coin. The earth itself has become a dwelling place for the divine. Explore this tantalizing dichotomy with the ladies of Sinner Saint Burlesque and discover just how tempting it is when the depraved and the worshipful collide. Partake in sensual spirituals and convene with decadent deities. Allow us to lead you to the gardens of pleasure and delights. Sinner Saint Burlesque presents, "The Sacred and The Profane", where good is irreverent and evil is irrelevant.
Join us for our pre-show experience service! Confess your sins in the confessional, take a sacrament of sexy from our heavenly bodies, and explore what it truly means to connect to your inner Aphrodite. Come worship at the altar of the Burlesque Goddess, bow down to the divine feminine and take the body of delicious deities. Location: Seattle Immersive Theatre 701 5th Ave N, Seattle, WA 98109 Early service starts at 7pm, Thursday-Sunday Additional late night service starts at 10pm, Friday and Saturday Tickets here. |
